I'm A Single Mother and I'm Raising A Boy Into A Man

This is a little different for this blog, but it's a topic of discussion I get pulled into often. It's the ever so controversial topic "a woman can't teach a boy to be a man" and I agree to a certain extent, but at the same time I'm debunking the myth.  You see a penis isn't the only prerequisite to becoming a man. To become a man, you must first start by being a good person.






I hear parents saying all the time that when their child grows up they are going to be a lawyer, a doctor, an engineer, etc and that's great, but what kind of person will they be? Donald Trump is pretty successful but he's also a prick. As a single mother my goal is simple, to raise an asset to society, not a liability. Doesn't take a male to teach a young boy that.

 I teach my son through example.
I don't walk through doors until he opens them.  In return, he now runs to open doors for women.At 6 he sorts, washes, dries, folds, and puts away his clothes so that your daughter doesn't have to. I teach my son that you catch more flies with honey, so pleasethank youmay I, rolls off the tongue with ease. I teach my son the value of moments, not materials. We travel, we explore, we see the world beyond our visual field. Embracing all cultures and ideology, because all lives matter right?I teach my son that material blessings come from hard work. I love to hear him talk about his future wife (not girlfriend) and the home and vacations he wants to provide for them as a veterinarian "even though it's a lot of college."  I teach my son that it's God first. He understands where his blessing come from, he prays, and he'll tell you quickly "I'm not lucky,  I'm blessed" 




See a man is responsible, he's possess manners, he's God fearing,  he's a hard worker, he values family, and everything else is birthed from that foundation. Yeah, I know the eyes rolled at the title. Kinda how my eyes roll when people assume anatomy crowns them with the title of "Man." So pop those eyes back in your head and reevaluate your foundation. Reevaluate the quality of person you are or are raising. Reevaluate your worth and contribution to society. Therein lies the definition of a man. I'm a proud mom raising a boy into a man!


10 comments:

  1. I agree with you. Sure, there are some things that may mean a little something different coming from a man, but as a woman you are very capable of teaching your son about the things that matter in life!! Good job Mom!! Keep up the good work. The world needs more good men!

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  2. Dr Ben Carson was raised by his single mom and she did a fantastic job! It wasn't easy and she was strict but in the end he overcame issues and became a surgeon. I do think that ALL kids need a male role model but it's not impossible to raise a good kid without a father.

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    1. I guess I should've said semi-single. His father is present just not in home. He also has a ton of successful "uncles" in his life so yes, role models are very important

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  3. I'm surprised that people have told you it's not possible for a woman to raise a man -- it's such a horrible and untrue thing to say to a mother. It sounds like you're doing just fine on your own!

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    1. Thank you dear. I'm surprised at people's thought patterns sometimes

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  4. You are doing a great job Momma! And I know ALL TOO MANY woman raising good men! Keep it up!

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  5. It's BS. you are fully capable of teaching your boy to be a man. You can teach your boy exactly that what he needs to know woman are looking for in a good husband. Yes, us with a husband can do that as well but the hubby can influence those habits that we don't necessary want ha ha

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    1. Lol lord don't I know. I'm always like "so males ate born doing xyz huh" lol

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